From "Nestor's Gap" by Hal Friesen from Opus 3: An Okal Rel Legacy Anthology
Nestor wasn't the only one pretending to be someone else, and Di Mon's example, strange though it was, comforted him. He could continue to be Nersallian in appearance and others could continue their own personas, so necessary for survival in the Gelack Empire.
"Nestor's Gap" is set during the Nesak War prior to the ten-novel Okal Rel Saga. In this quote, warrior Nestar Tark of House Nersal realizes he is hiding important aspects of his nature by playing the role of Nersallian Warrior -- not in the same way that Di Mon does, but just as surly. Nestor secretly discovers Di Mon's repressed homosexuality during this short story. Nestor himself is to discovers, over a series of short stories, that he sympathizes with the Nesaks over family life choices such as marriage, despite his Vrellish cultural upbringing.